5 Tips for Happy Dating In Your Senior Years
Dating is great, isn’t it? There’s the excitement of meeting someone new, getting to know more about them, the butterflies in your stomach before each date. It really takes you back to those happy younger years, doesn’t it? But who said you can’t have those happy years now?
Well, you can have those happy years now. That’s why we’ve put together some tips to help ensure your dating experiences in your golden years are happy experiences.
1 – Realistic Expectations
There’s no perfect Prince Charming out there waiting for you, just regular people with their own quirks and flaws. So don’t set your expectations to “perfection”, or you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment (by someone that’s probably not even disappointing). And similarly, don’t expect too much from yourself either – you’re human too and you can’t enjoy yourself if you’re expecting way too much from yourself.
So, ask yourself what you expect from a date. Then imagine someone expecting that from you. Does it sound doable? If so, great! If not, you’ve probably set your expectations too high.
2 – Be Proactive
Make the call – don’t wait around for someone to make plans for you. If you want to go on another date and see someone again, just ask them. If you don’t ask then it may never happen (yes, they may call you first but you want to show a bit of eagerness). Also, don’t just leave yourself waiting around for them. It’s okay to make your own plans and live your own life, even if you do want to see someone again. Don’t put your life on hold waiting for them.
3 – Keep up The Awareness
Check in with yourself, are you enjoying spending time with this new person? If that answer isn’t a fairly strong yes, maybe it’s time to consider a bit of honesty. Remaining self-aware is the best way to stay happy, and if you’re aware of your own happiness or unhappiness then it might be time to do something about it.
Similarly, try to stay aware of them. Do they seem happy too? Perhaps you’re getting the impression that things aren’t going smoothly for them. It’s okay to check in with them if you have doubts. Just ask how they think things are going. Even if they’re not amazing right now, that doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker. Things can be worked on, and being open and aware is the best place to start.
4 – Face Your Fears
Dating can be a bit nerve-wracked, let’s be honest – those butterflies in your stomach can quickly overwhelm you. But you have to learn to face your fears with dating. Just remember, you’re only talking to another person who’s probably just as nervous as you are. Don’t be scared to get in touch and ask about that date you’re hoping to go on. The worst they can do is say no, and from there it’s all just closure – you’ll be back to yourself in no time. But if they say yes, then it’s all happiness from there and you’ll be thanking yourself for facing your fears.
5 – Don’t Settle
Remember what we said about being realistic? That means not settling for someone just because you feel like you have to be with someone. If you’re going to be spending a lot of time with someone, you need to be sure that you actually enjoy spending time with them. There’s no time limit on dating, so take the time to find someone that really makes you happy, and someone that is happy with you.